Resources and Information
Preventing Sexual Violence
Get involved on campus | Bystander Intervention | Effective Consent
Get Involved on Campus
To become directly involved in preventing sexual violence at Skidmore, consider becoming active in two campus organizations:
- The Center for Sex & Gender Relations. The CSGR is a student-initiated, safe, confidential space in Case Center that provides
information, outreach, products and resources related to sexual health and conduct,
relationship health and dynamics, sexual & gender identity and more. The CSGR is
staffed by Peer Advocates who are trained, peer-to-peer resources for students who
experience or are affected by sexual or gender-based misconduct and other forms of
interpersonal violence. Peer Advocates are able to provide information and resources
to students in need. Peer Advocates also provide the campus community with educational
programming and in-person advocacy and support. Peer Advocates are anonymous, peer-to-peer
resources, which means they are not required to report personally identifiable information
about sexual and gender-based misconduct except in cases where there is clear danger
to the community.
For more information, visit the CSGR on the third floor of Case Center during its posted office hours, visit its Web site or email email@example.com.
- Advisory Council on Sexual and Gender-Based Misconduct. An interdisciplinary group of staff members and students, the Advisory Council reports
directly to the President’s Office about issues related to sexual misconduct policy,
prevention, and resources at Skidmore. Please consider attending any of the regular
community forums hosted by the ACSGBM. If you are interested in joining the Advisory
Council or would like more information about Skidmore’s prevention efforts and response
to the issues of sexual misconduct, dating violence, or stalking, please contact any
of the following members:
- Mariel Martin, Title IX Deputy Coordinator, chair
- W. Rochelle Calhoun, Dean of Students and Vice President for Student Affairs & Title IX Coordinator
- David Karp, Associate Dean of Student Affairs/Director of Student Conduct
- Erin Dagle, Assistant Director of Student Conduct and SGBM Investigator
- Patricia Rubio, Associate Dean of the Faculty for Faculty Development, Personnel, and Diversity
- Julia Routbort, Director of the Counseling Center
- Patty Bosen, Director of Health Services
- Jen McDonald, Director of Health Promotion/Victim Advocate
- Michelle Murray, Assistant Director of Health Promotion/Victim Advocate
- Dennis Conway, Director of Campus Safety
- Larry Britt, Associate Director of Campus Safety
- Herb Crossman, Assistant Director for Equal Employment Opportunity and Workforce Diversity
- Soraya Attia '15, SGA Willingness-to-Serve Position
- Ray Skyer '17, Center for Sex and Gender Relations Head Peer Advocate
Bystander Intervention, by The Ohio State University
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The best way to prevent sexual and relationship violence from occurring in our campus community is to commit to the following guiding values:
Violence is not tolerated on our campus. Everyone is expected to do their part to reduce violence on our campus No one has to do everything, but everyone in our community must do something. The "something" we must all commit to is engaging in bystander moments, no matter how small. Every bystander moment counts when we are working to reduce violence.
Bystander moments occur when we are cued in to the potential for violence. We might see someone intentionally trying to get someone else drunk, isolating someone into another room, or recognize power differences like age. When we notice these cues it is important to make the choice to act because even the smallest action can prevent violence.
There are four types of bystander intervention we can choose to act out on campus:
- Direct: These bystander moments involve directly talking to someone or intervening in a
situation. It could mean saying to a friend, "Hey, you've been pretty hard to reach
lately, is everything ok?" or stepping in to take an intoxicated friend back to their
residence hall. Direct bystander moments can also be watching a friend's drink for
them while they are in the bathroom or speaking up if someone uses the term rape in
a joke or to in contexts other than a serious discussion of sexual violence.
- Delegate: These moments are all about getting others involved. Delegating in a bystander moment
could mean calling Campus Safety or 911 for help, asking a friend to assist you in
finding a ride for a friend, or asking the host of a party to ask someone to leave.
- Distract: These moments use a distraction to interrupt precursors to violence to prevent a harmful situation from ever occurring. Distractions could include spilling a drink, singing loudly, or telling someone that their car is getting towed.
Delay: For many reasons, you may not be able to do something right in the moment. For example, if you're feeling unsafe or if you're unsure whether or not someone in the situation is feeling unsafe, you may just want to check in with the person. In this case, you can combine a distraction technique by asking the person to use the bathroom with you or go get a drink with you to separate them from the person that they are talking with. Then, this might look like asking them, "Are you okay?" or "How can I help you get out of this situation?" This could also look like texting the person, either in the situation or after you see them leave and asking, "Are you okay?" or "Do you need help?"
For many reasons, you may not be able to do something right in the moment. For example, if you're feeling unsafe or if you're unsure whether or not someone in the situation is feeling unsafe, you may just want to check in with the person. In this case, you can combine a distraction technique by asking the person to use the bathroom with you or go get a drink with you to separate them from the person that they are talking with. Then, this might look like asking them, "Are you okay?" or "How can I help you get out of this situation?" This could also look like texting the person, either in the situation or after you see them leave and asking, "Are you okay?" or "Do you need help?"
Effective consent is informed, freely and actively given by mutually understandable words and/or actions that indicate a willingness to engage in mutually agreed upon sexual activity - in other words, to do the same thing, at the same time, in the same way, with each other. Skidmore strongly encourages partners to talk with each other before engaging in sexual activity and to communicate as clearly and verbally as possible with each other. It is the responsibility of the person who wants to engage in the specific sexual activity to make sure that they have received effective consent before initiating sexual activity.
7 C’s to Help Ensure You Get Consent
- Choice: it must be freely, and willingly given
- Communication: talk, make physical cues, make sure the partner is okay with this. Silence is not okay. Silence, lack of eye contact or consciousness means stop
- Clarify: if you’re unsure clarify with your partner that this is what you both want
- Consistent and Collaborative: partner(s) mutually know what that words or actions mean and want to do the same thing, in the same way, at the same time.
- Considerate: listen to your partner respect their boundaries, body and voice. No is a no. Not now is no. I’m not sure is no. Etc…
- Continual: happens throughout the course of sexual activity. Just because someone kisses you doesn’t give you a green light to go to second or third base. Each new activity requires a new consent.